I left a comment on your post, and I hope you got it , Great post! Craig, that doesn't mean we shouldn't celebrate birthdays just because God's prophets didn't celebrate birthdays. Thank you very much for your well-wishes. You can hide behind all the festive attention and treats…and blend into the background like you want too and maybe help yourself to that extra slice of cake . What’s to not celebrate? My children do NOT like a fuss on their birthday, one of them from as early as 2 years old, instructed me that the family was NOT to sing Happy Birthday – he has social anxiety!! Besides, if you don´t celebrate, you can pretend it hasn´t happened ;) So here are some valid reasons not to celebrate your birthday … and stay forever young! There’s always something to be thankful about each day ❤, As a younger version of myself, I used to enjoy my birthday and celebrating it. I never celebrate birthday with other before I get married, but I do go out to the restaurant and eat out without remembering how old I am:) ), which is not give a f**k about it… . That seems one too many steps ahead of where I am mentally. Change ), You are commenting using your Twitter account. They make me feel very special. It is nice that you still receive some cards each year, and you must be important to quite a few people around you. The next suggested step in some of these birthday blues articles was to. So true that over the years we have attached meaning to occasions. In general, society sees birthdays as rolling good times, a time where we do what we want and get what we want. And yet, it is not. To make some days stand out, we give them a meaning, a name, or a reason. Like you I also don’t drink and so true some think the right way to celebrate is to get intoxicated. And they’re all valid. I am too not very fancy about celebrating birthday. Wishes can indeed be mechanical, not just insincere but sort of programmed. We will continue to make a big deal of his birthday because that is what parents do (and I don’t mean spending lots of money, I mean celebrating). So I do hope you have a very good day tomorrow , Thank you for wanting to read my eating habits post so soon. Enjoy the food and show, and above all have a lot of fun . Why hold back from celebrating YOU! There’s the pressure of decorating, organizing family events and of course money too spend for gifts. Ask yourself this question: are you really that keen on celebrating your birthday? It is nice to give yourself a treat if you want to on your birthday, and remind yourself how important you are. Or we might plan to celebrate our birthday up until the point we have certain expectations of the day and maybe not feel disappointed in the end but more uncertain than ever over life. Those who are no longer here would probably be silently watching over you on your birthday, and a quiet day and birthday can be a meaningful. Wishing you a very good weekend, Klaus , Such delicious images, Mabel! And funny part is that she ordered her cake herself and did all prep and all. My dad passed away in … Treating yourself to small things every day can be such a lovely thing. I’m heading into my late 60s now (don’t be fooled by the userpic – it’s from a bit over a decade ago!) But then if you don’t at least pretend to give a f**k on your friends’ and family members’ birthdays then it would appear to be rude, so I’ll pretend. I suppose if you know the person well, then maybe. I hate smiling. First: Your birthday connects you with the earth — but your name day connects you to heaven. It’s … JOKES. Quiet and simple is always something to be appreciated. I thought it was a nice touch from the hotel. (imagine your birthday was on Christmas, that is what my birthday is like.) It’s a good call you make saying that psychologists have found the idea of pre planned happiness as not being particularly healthy! It is your day and you should be able to spend it however you like, quiet and all . ... your near next birthday, that opportunity which you know now is coming. And on your own birthday, eat a cupcake. So hard to tell these days if birthday wishes are sincere. Inesita. I’m a wooden horse. Maybe when he grows up he will remember all these celebrations but more importantly, these moments with you and the family , I loved this post. Isadora , Good to hear you feel your mind spritely. Hopefully you have quite a few more memorable landmark birthdays to come , First of all, let me wish you a belated happy birthday Mabel, and hope that the year is a fruitful one for you. Other research shows that the year before milestone birthdays could be the hardest for some, experiencing a ‘crisis of meaning’ – and some might be more prone to extra-marital affairs or signing up to run a marathon. 10 Reasons to Celebrate Your Birthday? Thank you so much for the well wishes, Pam , Oh, I truly agree that my family and friends were/are sincere about their bd well wishes for me. Repetition. Sometimes we feel like we have no control when we’re at a big party, be it our party or a party we go to. You celebrate … I do not celebrate my birthday for religious reasons. Whether it’s your sweet sixteen or you’re “over the hill”, here are some reasons you should always look forward to your birthday - or your entire birthday week, if you’re anything like me! It depends on person to person to celebrate or not to celebrate, nothing else. Probably one of the best reasons not to celebrate your birthday is that it can be very expensive! I really do like a quiet birthday. You are very kind, Somali. It must be double the celebration if your friends and family celebrate the birthdays together…maybe two cakes at a time too . At the outset Mabel wishing you a very very happy belated birthday, I am sure you must have had a quite a lovely day and more so a memorable day. ... that the circumstances of your birth and/or upbringing do not preclude your … A simple meal out is already a nice treat to me just as hanging out with someone at the shopping mall. That is generous of the hotel. So I urged them to not celebrate it. Have a celebration each and every day . Go out to dinner … again? They are always worth the wait because when the time is right, we have such good chats. I have shared it on my Pinterest board. . Most people celebrate their birthday, but you don't have to if you don't want to do so. I obviously missed this post at the time it was published. Disguised work and disguised emotions are something that will inevitably hurt us all in the end. They say it is just another day, so why go the extra mile? Just another day, another day to be thankful for. It is the test of time that will make us realise who are really there for us and who will actually show up when we really need it. Your existence built relationships. , Very inclined to think that you age well, Val Your mother’s passing sounded like a challenging time, but I am sure you and her have many memories together. Kind of a big deal. It’s the small gestures and thoughtful words that matter most, of course. It is up to us. https://christysdiaryblog.wordpress.com/, No reason we need to celebrate our birthdays lol. (In fact, I thought having an August birthday was exotic and would have loved that!) My friends want to make plans, presents, and the singing at the restaurant is probably the worst for me. I’ve had those moments too. Consequently, no reason why some of us would rather spend our birthdays alone and not mention it. No reason why we can’t celebrate our achievements, milestones, our existence and be thankful for life on any other day. Simple greetings (and a family dinner, now that I have my own family) from loved ones and good friends are good enough for me. , Your family is so nice to you. The best way to avoid this is to not tell people when your birthday is. It is a time to be thankful I like how you think about birthdays. You are very patient grinning and bearing it for your friends and family on your birthday. I totally enjoyed your post, Mabel. I guess I much rather make a fuss over others than myself because I like surprising others in a good way. There’s usually too much going on anyway. I’m with you on the private birthday-observation Maybe I’m just marked by embarrassing past experiences of being sung to in a restaurant — waiters trooping to the table, loudly singing Happy Birthday and bearing cake. , I like you too. Thanks, Sweet Blessings dear heart, Enjoy your cake, Lorrie. Still, it’s good timing for me since it’s my birthday tomorrow. It is such a valid point, that is you don’t give a f**k about someone else’s birthday you’ll appear rude. Though it is good to get connected with as many people and check the durability and reliability of friendship and relationship, as if it is a litmus test for the relationship to prove whether they have the strength to stand the test of time. Thanks for stopping by as always. Birthdays are almost always occasions where relationships collide. ( Log Out /  Fake friends who are just coming to enjoy the free food or fakeness of the heart just to make your heart get this temporary satisfaction love this blog of yours keep it up❤️. Life is always more interesting with others around, even for us who are introverts or with anxiety. It’s not that I have anything against celebrating birthdays. PHEW – that’s out of the way. I agree people like us who love to spend quality time with few close friends and to spending time with self and reflecting the diversity and the meaning of life and translating those thoughts into work of art and literature… As someone with anxiety, birthday surprises don’t make me feel good. As someone who isn’t into social media that much, I turn off my Facebook wall on my birthday. Do you find that. Hi Mabel, So take some time to yourself. What we do for our birthday or how we think about our birthday can change as we get older or go through different phases in life. Some things need more attention and are more important than the fact that it is our birthday. I usually think of this in relation to those very expensive wedding events, the $10,000 (or more) wedding. 2. Happy birthday month . Have people sing to you. Our birthday, that one day usually reminding us of another year gone by. They prefer to remain silent and follow the normal routine of daily life. I just can’t seem to get enough of it! It is delicious ❤. Don´t be pressured to do anything you don´t want to do – it´s your day, and you can ignore it if you wish! You do what YOU want. Really appreciated it, Lita. It sounds like your friends are very nice about your birthday, nice, quiet, low key . I refuse to have anything to do with my biological age! I have an absolutely wonderful family. A birthday among so many was always a way to feel special. Just adds to the stress and anxiety for me. Some things are more important than your birthday. You could have one slice and the next thing you know you could actually have the whole cake. So that´s a good reason to ignore birthdays. That said, Happy Birthday to you, Mabel. Some of us simply don’t like attention on us. I also try very hard not to focus on the number associated with my age. There is a fine line between the two. The simple things are always worth celebrating, even quietly in our minds – by just being thankful. Over the years I’ve gotten better at hanging out with close friends for a meal or catch-up around my birthday; they’d most definitely say, ‘Happy Birthday’ and I  go along with it. I do like thinking of something I can accomplish to mark the year (or especially the decade). , It does sound like you will be very spoilt for your upcoming birthday, Sylvia. Yet there are many who see no reason to celebrate the day they were born. It is so interesting reading your post and the many, many comments, Mabel. Your post reminded me of the little statement cards at the end of Chuck Lorre’s television shows. I also don’t like a fuss on my birthday, but it’s nice just to go out for lunch or dinner with my beloved hubby. Change ). Have a fun week! I do hope you enjoyed the visual eating and you can always come back for more Such a poetic comment from you and thank you so much. Not really. The last thing many of us want is to be treated as a person to talk to because they are there for company and nothing more. But on a birthday, take a break. I also like the birthday to be private and limited and the best celebration is when I get to spend time with self and nobody to remind that I have grown older and one more year has passed by and nothing that I can do to arrest the passage of time in life. Now, I do not feel that the occasion calls for a celebration as it is just another day and prefer a quiet birthday. Most people tell you there are certain moments you should celebrate in life: for example, the weekend coming, so you should party on a Friday. Thank you so much, they were fun to photograph…and some of them were fun to cook too , Aaaahhh … loook at you – a little baker too. Every day is just another day. The year that my mother died, I just wanted everyone to forget my birthday. It is our choice but when other people insist on celebrating it, that might not go down well at all. Everyone is usually too busy with that event to celebrate my birthday. SELF CONFIDENCE. I don’t want to be reminded that I’m another year nearer by ‘best by’ date. The moment you entered the world of business. One birth changed so many things. I think we all like to be spoilt Hope it will be one to remember. It was fine when I was a child eating jelly and ice cream on my birthday, but not as I’ve got older. Used to just book a table at a favourite cafe and usually had about 23 people. I also had memories of eating jelly during my birthday when I was a kid – blue jelly that my mother made. Sorry to hear what you had to go through with your mum, Anne. Unfortunately my husband family and himself are very strict on this and insist to have birthday celebration every year, which I found pretty annoying to be honest. Now? , Belated Happy Birthday Wishes to You Mabel …. Double Figures. ‘Your day can be celebrated any day.’ I love your wisdom. I came from a family of 5. Some of us might recognise this, and so see our birthdays as a good time to raise awareness for a certain cause, rallying others to join in the good fights to help make the world a better place. I’ve always disliked my birthday. Always a pleasure Mabel to exchange such lovely conversations, I agree it has become far in between and I need to get back to my regularity in this space and being in the place we enjoy so much. In other words, the world doesn’t stop or revolve around us all the time, on our birthday inclusive. I remember in school and college I used to have that special feeling on my birthday and used to be excited about celebrating my birthday but since the last few years, I have even turned off the notification of my birthday on FB. . Birthdays are contrary to this feeling as they bring people in sudden attention. By the way sorry for such a delayed visit, you can say have been busy for doing something at work, how else can I submit my excuse for not reading your post for so long. Never have been keen on celebrating my birthday, which is coming up next week. The feeling of that is above and beyond and will slowly get them away from doing too much just for one day for themselves wasting things when it’s all going to be a hit back to reality the next day lol. Yes I know what you mean by done right. IT'S THE DAY OF YOUR BIRTH. I agree birthday have are important but over years we have attached meaning to this occasions and the occasions have acquired wings and have manifested in multiple ways…some of these we like but many we may not like, as rightly pointed out it is so much with our personality and the person we are…any of us are private person and we don’t like the big public announcement and celebration which invariably makes a statement, how big is the event and who all attended the celebration and how much better it was than the previous year and the publicity takes over the privacy that is so much a essential aspects of any birthday celebrations. Change ), You are commenting using your Facebook account. I’m wishing you many more happy trips around the sun. I agree in the digital age wishes are programmed in a sense it is machine made and we have moved away from nature and natural aspects of life are rarity and we are sucked into the virtual world run by machines programmed and unfortunately we take it for real and add so much of our emotions and feelings whereas from the other side it as automatic machine message, notifications are deceptively smart to churn our emotions and the person behind is no where there to be seen and we feel for him or her which has no bearing. Each paid for their own meal and drinks and often there were 2-3new comers so it was a great catch up for everyone. Right? It IS nice to be thought of, any time, any day – it means you are important to someone to some degree. , Stay cool, Amy. I have several friends, family, coworkers, and other acquaintances of varied faiths who do celebrate their birthdays, and I have no problem with that – I just don’t celebrate my own. It signifies another year of ups and downs behind us. We are heading into winter but hopefully the sun will stick around , Interesting. Your husband and family are very nice to want to celebrate your birthday, insisting on it. That said, spending and doing something can create memories for a long time to come and memories that we want to remember. And I have friends who revel in their own birthdays, making the celebrations go on for weeks! But there’s nothing like having others be there for us when we need it. That is amazing a lot of people reminder your birthday and that it’s on Valentine’s Day. That time is aged 12.´ Whoever wrote it had a point. According to psychologist Debra Kissen, anytime that you are supposed to be happy can be a setup for disappointment; birthdays can be setups for anxiety as there is the pressure to have a memorable birthday in this comparative world. Publicity takes over privacy…I like how you say it. A birthday is a day that comes once a year and it should be celebrated for several reasons. If you don´t want to ignore birthdays, then you have every right to celebrate – go out and have a great time! 3. I think I’m only good at making pancakes , Thanks for the well-wishes, Isadora. My children’s birthday are a very special day for me too, as I gave birth to them on that day and my life was forever changed in a wonderful way from that day forward, for better or worse, and that is a reason to celebrate too. As such, even if we don’t celebrate, birthdays can be a time where we see who will show up or wish us well and figure out who is likely to be there for us when we need it. The pressure of organising your own dinner or party to celebrate your … And, I’m still feeling young in my mind. It is another day. Frankly, there are any number of reasons why you might want to forget about your birthday. Secretly, I’m just glad every day that I’m alive and BEING. I hope this birthday will be a good one. Thanks for stopping by. A … Again you are so spot on when you say social media flashes by us like lightning speed. To me, whenever I buy a new dress or have a dinner date or I get any gifts from my loved ones, it is a birthday for me.. in that case, I should be celebrating every month , LOL I like your definition of birthdays. I buy something nice for myself and just enjoy the day. When someone tells you it’s weird, tell them not to worry. And you know, people love any reason to have a party. If we openly acknowledge or celebrate our birthday we could get people pestering us how old we are (age is a personal thing), people telling us how young we look (body image is also a personal thing), receiving unwanted presents, having to smile when someone wishes us Happy Birthday in person and we aren’t in a great mood, or just putting up with all day obligatory ‘Happy Birthdays’ online and offline. We should celebrate each day like a birthday, Sweetfrost provides delicious cakes for your special occasions. It IS nice to be remembered but if it puts you in a non-desired state, maybe a quite acknowledgement and moving along helps. But for the more low-key ones like you and I, reflection comes with the realisation of what’s important to us and what we really want. And, most importantly, don’t get mad at people who wish you “Happy Birthday." If we have lots of friends, there might be numerous birthday catch-ups and unless our friends pay for our share, this hurts the wallet. Sure, there will be food at a party but we can always bring our snacks to our own small and quiet get-togethers. ( Log Out /  Does anyone tell you ´You have to do something, it´s your birthday!´? That’s when we realise who and what we’ve got. As humans, we have emotions and that in itself is so unpredictable. Happy Birthday! . For those of us who value trust, loyal relationships and meaningful time spent, chances are we’d rather have people who’d be there for us anytime, any day as opposed to half a day of attention from others and not hearing back from them until next year. But that can be any day but most days we are caught up in the routine…, Not every day you hear someone who shares the same birthday as their mum. I firmly believe that the date on your birth certificate only has a meaning if you allow it to. Thank you for your nice words and for stopping by. Isadora , OOOppppssss … forgot – those desserts are luscious looking. I actually came over following the link to your latest post: 10 Differences Between Eastern And Western Eating Habits; but was told the link was broken and the post couldn’t be found. Like perks to you but who are you trying to fool and waste all that money for? The way we feel about our birthdays can change over time. ( Log Out /  Although the Bible does not explicitly forbid celebrating birthdays, it does help us to reason on key features of these events and understand God’s view of them. If more family happen to be around, it can also be very enjoyable. Sounds like hard times for you. , It can be unusual to not celebrate a birthday because by celebrating, it’s an opportunity to have fun and probably do something out of the ordinary. Many more quiet ‘parties’ for you , I feel ya sis the amount of times I always want to be alone and keep it calm for my birthday but my parents never listen I even tell them no celebrating no gifts nothing it’s just a plain old day but you know parents and especially when you’re the only child it’s even worst they won’t listen lol but it’s so true we should never think it’s only our day and feel above and beyond like a celebrity because we are only human after all not an angel but to those who do tend to celebrate way to much should give charity every year on their birthday even if it’s a single dollar what ever they can afford to help make others happy on their so called special day. And I can´t be the only one who thinks this way! Guessing that you might also be Taurus? Have a wonderful weekend, Mabel. I don’t give a flying f**k about birthdays. It sounded like a treat back then. Thank you! My mum always served it cold. Birthday come and go every year and what is the purpose to be remind of how old the person is. That said, choosing to view birthdays as a positive occasion – another year, still here, much achieved – can be a way of moving on. Oh I agree … we definitely are a “cool” bunch. Yay! As we get older, I don’t think many of us like to be reminded of our mortality, or the fact that things – what we have and people around us – come and go in life. This could be showing up for work and keeping our pay check, walking the dog, cooking for the kids or just being there for someone. Here in Australia we are heading right into winter, which I hope will be quick and short. So why not celebrate?! For some reason, your original birthday plans of "Netflix and bed" are always ignored. What I am saying is that nobody should feel obliged to celebrate; birthdays don´t always mean a lot to some of us. On our birthdays, sometimes we just want to belong. Research suggests that young children believe birthday parties cause ageing; the more birthday parties one has, the older they seem. Half over for us here in Australia. This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. I agree with social media it has become a public notification and you don’t know where all you have left the days on and it get flashed like a lightening speed all across the digital landscape and then you are overwhelmed and many times get lost in the wilderness of such clicks which many are forced to do as others have done and they don’t want to be left behind as they just do the wishes mechanically rather than any emotions attached. Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window), Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window), Click to share on Pinterest (Opens in new window), Click to share on LinkedIn (Opens in new window), 7 Unforgettable Ways To Celebrate Your Birthday. I start getting anxiety when my birthday is approaching. . But you are right lol, birthdays remind you how old you are or maybe some things you don’t want to remember. They just want to celebrate your miraculous existence. Thank you so much for reading the comments, Amanda. I may have to do a similar post when my birthday rolls around just so people understand. Following on from the first point, there often is the pressure to make a birthday a fun one. ! Having a celebratory time let alone putting on a brave face as others sing Happy Birthday to us could be rather inappropriate; sometimes the past hurts too much and is unforgettable. I always thought it was just me!! It doesn´t really mean a great deal. Here are my reasons why: It’s the day of your birth! I hope your birthday was a day of love and joy. Also, he proved to be a fighter on the day he was born when his heart rate dropped rapidly at birth and the doctors and nurses had to perform CPR for 7-8 min to revive him. I am one of the fortunate ones who has the opportunity of living longer and getting older each year. You Own a Day to Yourself. Ah! Well… I’m glad to read this post. Thanks, Drew. This way I go into the next day rejuvenated. Indeed Mabel, with so much cacophony around us and so much of work at hand we are literally lost in the wilderness of disguised work. It’s a good thing you were born. Love and light!! Personally, I find it disingenuous that people should only decide to be nice to a person just because it’s their birthday; we should aspire to be nice to people all the time. Birthdays can be a time where the spotlight is on us. Have a lovely time ahead . Simple and low-key, and think about what matters to you . Time for reflection | Weekly Photo Challenge: Unlikely. Btw, Mabel, I have become a big fan of your pancakes. Great write!! Communicate how you want people to celebrate your birthday. But we all have different feelings about these things and it’s important to respect them. It becomes less of a big deal as we grow older, but unless we are the (enviable) hermit out in the Himalayas, it is still nice to be thought of on that day. So don’t give a f**k if you want to . It’s a sign that someone appreciates our existence even for just one day, acknowledging our presence. But when I say “not celebrate”I am not saying that there should be no birthday cake…because there should always be birthday cake!! Lovely to know a fellow Taurean too. Instead of an all-out, all night long birthday celebration, I’d rather have one of my friends randomly call me for a good long chat right about when I get home after a long day and ready to eat a hot pizza, which I will eventually eat cold. I’m all up for celebrating other’s birthdays. You know, when your parents threw you a birthday party and invited all your friends to be with you on your “special day.” It felt good and I wouldn’t be surprised if you felt important, loved, and appreciated. Personally I don’t tell people at work my birthday because I don’t want a fuss and I don’t particularly celebrate other people’s birthdays at work unless they have a personality that requires a fuss, if you know what I mean. I, too, believe that these Happy Birthday wishes are not always sincere. The important things in life are usually more than a day of one-off celebrations. As I got older my wonderful friends celebrated my bd with wonderful one-on-one lunches. As a child, I adored all the birthday cards and presents I got from family and friends, and as the years have gone by those have decreased. ‘Anytime I am supposed to be happy, I am super nervous’ This is so me too, cannot agree more with you.
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